How do you guys deal with Perimenopause wives??? big headache, no sex no appreciation

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by exbiker

Swee. Enjoying yourself is the most important!

Just got word one of my fav Russian Fls might be coming back to SG, hope to catch her b4 i fly off for work!! hahahaa..

great news to end the week!

Here's another funny fact: I just saw one of the FLs in dome 3 is a FL i had in HK, tried to get her in phuket but she backed out last minute ( wanted more money after agreeing to a fix amt).

might go visit and surprise her,

[cbkia222]

Just an update:

So wife + kids out of town for their own holiday.

I flew in my Russian chick from Phuket..

4 days 3 nights in SG.

Air tix + hotel : $1k-ish

eating + sight seeing : $800?

pocket money + small gift ( dyson hair thingy).: $1.6k

total spent around $3k+

was super tired when she left ( balls empty) ,

today after waking up, mentally fully recharged for work and everything, told off one of my customers ( this fucker bargain , payment like shit, kaopeh why no stock ) ,

if want to kaopeh, then F--K off cos i would rather spend time and effort on customers who appreciate our efforts.

somehow, ( other than the sex part), just having a chick appreciate you and have fun with you ( other than bed), really helps your mental health!

and i must say, better than those fucking local sugar babies who demand for more and give less!

[huayingxiong]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Definitely.. my path and my kids..

anyway, just dropped my russian chick off at the airport.. had a fun 3 days 3 nights with her. Reasonable cost and i also enjoyed myself.

Felt like i was sucking her life force from that young shaved pussy! haha..

Mind feels much better now, balls much emptier, wallet also emptier but definitely worth it!

Guess you are much younger than me.

Further on, you will realise is you yourself that you should concern more as the children will grow, and soon they will be behaving out of your expectation.

Enjoy the moment while you can.

Cheers

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by huayingxiong

Guess you are much younger than me.

Further on, you will realise is you yourself that you should concern more as the children will grow, and soon they will be behaving out of your expectation.

Enjoy the moment while you can.

Cheers

I realised that there is no point dwelling on the fact that my wife is always pissed off with me ( at everything). instead now, i focus on myself, being positive and raising my kids in a happy environment .

If my mental health goes down , its my kids that will suffer. just another way at looking at it

Thank you for your wise words Apprecirate them!

[Pictionary]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Just an update:

So wife + kids out of town for their own holiday.

I flew in my Russian chick from Phuket..

4 days 3 nights in SG.

Air tix + hotel : $1k-ish

eating + sight seeing : $800?

pocket money + small gift ( dyson hair thingy).: $1.6k

total spent around $3k+

was super tired when she left ( balls empty) ,

today after waking up, mentally fully recharged for work and everything, told off one of my customers ( this fucker bargain , payment like shit, kaopeh why no stock ) ,

if want to kaopeh, then F--K off cos i would rather spend time and effort on customers who appreciate our efforts.

somehow, ( other than the sex part), just having a chick appreciate you and have fun with you ( other than bed), really helps your mental health!

and i must say, better than those fucking local sugar babies who demand for more and give less!

No need to write the customer portion. Most of customers want to have cheap and good things. They have no budget and would rather go johor to buy. Put yourself in customer shoes, would you want to buy exp goods or not?

Regarding about wife and children portion, you want to do whatever up to you. Just dun overdo and get caught.

It doesn't make much sense for me to continue writing english to you. I am now understudying other languages. Too much time is wasted on reading and writing unnecessary languages. Either I redirect you to peanadood or fallen11 or you seek attention from relevant govt. bodies instead. Ask them more questions, dun reply me.

[huayingxiong]

Relax la bro. TS had talk abt his mental instability. He probably vent out thru this channel as there is no other channel for him at the moment.
I have spoken to some women, why i did not speak to men and chose to communicate with women. My ans is, men has ego. And many a time, is difficult to talk to our own kind with problem like this.
So, just enjoy our life, with or without sex ��

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by huayingxiong

Relax la bro. TS had talk abt his mental instability. He probably vent out thru this channel as there is no other channel for him at the moment.
I have spoken to some women, why i did not speak to men and chose to communicate with women. My ans is, men has ego. And many a time, is difficult to talk to our own kind with problem like this.
So, just enjoy our life, with or without sex ��

Thanks bro

Appreciate the reply!

[dongdongchiang]

Hey bro! I hope you are coping well man.

Just curious right now, how much do you love your wife, and how much would you want to help her?

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by dongdongchiang

Hey bro! I hope you are coping well man.

Just curious right now, how much do you love your wife, and how much would you want to help her?

Hi Bro,

Thanks man Coping better ( had some bros PM me with similar issues, so its like a little support group).

for my wife, yes i still love her and she is the mother of my children.

but in recent years ( pre covid and during covid), i went through a lot ( mentally) as my work suffered ( pre-covid i lost my job and was jobless for a while, was phv/ delivery while looking for a new job, didnt tell my wife, ), got my current job, travelled a bit , then kenna covid ( as you know , cannot travel = no money)

I was doing a shit load of illegal things ( telegram hitch , deliveries) just to make ends meet then

wife had troubles coping with wfh. i also had to help my old parents transition to the digital age suddenly ( u imagine la, dealing with old people). plus my kids were very young then.

i came out of covid pretty mentally messed up ( fat, stressed, all health problems) and no appreciation. But as a man/ husband/ father/ son, it is what it is and i got through it ( thank goodness for SBF)

Right now, after reading up about this perimenopause thingy, it will take a LOT of mental energy for her to admit these issues.

I am able to bring her through this, but i am not ( at this stage) , mentally strong to take anymore emotional abuse as i'm the dam pillar in the family ( children/ home/ parents). If my mind goes down, the whole family goes down as well

I've been changing my life style ( less fatty food, more exercise) to improve my health, and now improving my mental health, for my children.

for my wife, right now, all i can do is ensure she is comfortable at home physically ( no chores, no stress as a wife, ) and her main job now is her day job and her job as a mother ( children's studies), but i'm also part of my children's studies as well.

I'm not thinking so far ahead, so just enjoying myself now in SBF haha

[Wins88]

Just came across this thread.
I just want to share my experience with Perimenopause wife as my wife has been going thru it. We enjoyed a healthy sex life until this Perimenopause thing set in. Her constant irritation with me, always tired, moodiness coupled with job stress made my life a constant "mine field" exploration. However, due to our hot n heavy sex life before this - I began buying sex toys and whenever we get the odd chance of having sex - I used them during sex to add a dimension to our play to bring her to happy climax each and every time we had sex. Every thing I could think of such as watching porn, talking dirty etc was thrown in for good measure to ensure she got comfy with the idea of having more frequent sex. Everytime we have sex I ensured she cums and cums hard. It worked! She became more cheerful - especially a day or 2 after a night of good sex, Happier, more receptive to my advances. And even now we are thinking of going swinging but we r both old so I doubt anyone would want us hahahaha!

[Zetyalpha]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Just an update:

So wife + kids out of town for their own holiday.

I flew in my Russian chick from Phuket..

4 days 3 nights in SG.

Air tix + hotel : $1k-ish

eating + sight seeing : $800?

pocket money + small gift ( dyson hair thingy).: $1.6k

total spent around $3k+

was super tired when she left ( balls empty) ,

today after waking up, mentally fully recharged for work and everything, told off one of my customers ( this fucker bargain , payment like shit, kaopeh why no stock ) ,

if want to kaopeh, then F--K off cos i would rather spend time and effort on customers who appreciate our efforts.

somehow, ( other than the sex part), just having a chick appreciate you and have fun with you ( other than bed), really helps your mental health!

and i must say, better than those fucking local sugar babies who demand for more and give less!

Somehow agree with you in regard of local sugar babies. But more like regular women. I'm ok with a depreciating asset. But alot of them are soul sucking vampires giving their bfs and husbands a lot of headaches. As I age the more I see such scenarios played out like this in regard to men around me.

Usual theme, constant nagging, some cases got domestic violence, tantrum throwing, teaching their children wrong values.

Congrats having a great companion. It really takes the edge off things.

[huayingxiong]

[QUOTE=cbkia222;24242950]Hi Bro,

Thanks man Coping better ( had some bros PM me with similar issues, so its like a little support group).

for my wife, yes i still love her and she is the mother of my children.

Hi Bro,

Glad that you are adopting well.

Can see u still have feeling for your wife and trying hard to maintain the family nucleus.

My only advice is, endurance is the way to go when women starts aging. This is a problem face by all men, all family. Another thing will be communication. If this is lacking or 1 way traffic, then it will be very very hard to salvage.

For me, I adopted the endurance part, but my thoughts are no more on her and the family. She had push me to the limit during Covid days. I even ask myself is it a shameful thing to seek help for mental abuse as a man, as during those WFH days, reports always portray women as the weaker sex to being abuse.

Then I started to think, there are many couples who live under the same roof, yet is just name remains as couple, heart already gone.

Divorce is a hassle for me as I have a special need son, that live like a king. I am not going to disrupt his life so maintain current status quo is the way I think to go. Don get me wrong, I still take care of the ‘family’ as we are single income for 30 years. I have also thought of moving out to stay alone however, any dollar spend today will be a dollar less I can give to my son. And another endurance journey.

Don ask me if I am giving u the advice, why I did not try to save mine. Can only say I believe in fate ba. Maybe mine is over. I am not going to waste time doing things I deem as hopeless 😞

Is a great effort on your part to try to save the marriage. Hope all goes well for u.

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by Wins88

Just came across this thread.
I just want to share my experience with Perimenopause wife as my wife has been going thru it. We enjoyed a healthy sex life until this Perimenopause thing set in. Her constant irritation with me, always tired, moodiness coupled with job stress made my life a constant "mine field" exploration. However, due to our hot n heavy sex life before this - I began buying sex toys and whenever we get the odd chance of having sex - I used them during sex to add a dimension to our play to bring her to happy climax each and every time we had sex. Every thing I could think of such as watching porn, talking dirty etc was thrown in for good measure to ensure she got comfy with the idea of having more frequent sex. Everytime we have sex I ensured she cums and cums hard. It worked! She became more cheerful - especially a day or 2 after a night of good sex, Happier, more receptive to my advances. And even now we are thinking of going swinging but we r both old so I doubt anyone would want us hahahaha!

Hi Bro! you're very lucky!

my wife and i used to have hot sex until the children arrived! after that would be lucky to get a hug or a cuddle!

but i wish you more happy sexxessful years ahead with your wife!!!

sex definitely helps with the hormonal balance in women ( there's a ton of benefits of having regular sex for women). but whether they wanna have sex is another thing

thanks for sharing bro and hope you and your wife find more fun things to do to keep things exciting!

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by Zetyalpha

Somehow agree with you in regard of local sugar babies. But more like regular women. I'm ok with a depreciating asset. But alot of them are soul sucking vampires giving their bfs and husbands a lot of headaches. As I age the more I see such scenarios played out like this in regard to men around me.

Usual theme, constant nagging, some cases got domestic violence, tantrum throwing, teaching their children wrong values.

Congrats having a great companion. It really takes the edge off things.

hi bro!

you hit the nail on the head! I've been analysing the situation a lot and what you said its true! not about " depreciating asset", but literally sucking the life force out of you mentally and emotionally!

I am ok with giving life force " qi" through my dick, but not my dam soul or mental health!

what makes things worse ( i feel) now is that women now think they are as strong or if not better than men!

They use it to their advantage when necessary and revert back to the " i'm a women".

When we call them out for being what they truly are ( fucking life force vampires), then all the " women are weak and fragile, we men are pig" shit comes out.

i'm not a woman hater ( as crazy as it sounds, i get pure pleasure from pampering women both physically and mentally), but their constantly " changing" mindset is something i still cant solve.

Biggest joke, had a stupid ex gf, fucking hot sex ( more than 10 yrs ago), allowed me raw CIP ( my first cream pie ever), when drunk would literally try to rape me ( happened a few times and was fun), but total psycho bitch and came till a point i had ED from the stress she was putting me in. haha

broke up, one day met up, fucked a few times, tried to get back, said it was fuck for fun, and realised she was actually attached when she came to fuck me, hahaha..

women. cant stand them at times, cant live without them!

Bro again, thanks for your sharing!

[cbkia222]

[QUOTE=huayingxiong;24245224]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Hi Bro,

Thanks man Coping better ( had some bros PM me with similar issues, so its like a little support group).

for my wife, yes i still love her and she is the mother of my children.

Hi Bro,

Glad that you are adopting well.

Can see u still have feeling for your wife and trying hard to maintain the family nucleus.

My only advice is, endurance is the way to go when women starts aging. This is a problem face by all men, all family. Another thing will be communication. If this is lacking or 1 way traffic, then it will be very very hard to salvage.

For me, I adopted the endurance part, but my thoughts are no more on her and the family. She had push me to the limit during Covid days. I even ask myself is it a shameful thing to seek help for mental abuse as a man, as during those WFH days, reports always portray women as the weaker sex to being abuse.

Then I started to think, there are many couples who live under the same roof, yet is just name remains as couple, heart already gone.

Divorce is a hassle for me as I have a special need son, that live like a king. I am not going to disrupt his life so maintain current status quo is the way I think to go. Don get me wrong, I still take care of the ‘family’ as we are single income for 30 years. I have also thought of moving out to stay alone however, any dollar spend today will be a dollar less I can give to my son. And another endurance journey.

Don ask me if I am giving u the advice, why I did not try to save mine. Can only say I believe in fate ba. Maybe mine is over. I am not going to waste time doing things I deem as hopeless 😞

Is a great effort on your part to try to save the marriage. Hope all goes well for u.

Hi Bro, you are not alone.

i too believe that we men are literal victim of mental abuse by these women.

constantly being told what we are doing is wrong ( much to their whim and fancy and when we do it back to them, we are the abusive ones)

for me personally, Covid killed me mentally ( work, parents, wife, kid) and i was the pillar holding things up at home. went to IMH to ask for help and the doctor told him i'm not nuts to think i'm nuts.

For the endurance aspect, right now, what i have learnt is self preservation for my mental health. I have proven over and over again, my wife's role is not necessary at home other than being a mother. I came from operations and now in sales, i know how to plan everything properly.

So as long as my kid has the best, my parents are taken care of ( i have a useless older brother who gives my parents more drama).

As for you bro, you are brave and i admire respect you for giving the good life to your child

Never would i have expected to find some comfort and emotional support in this forum

Feels good to type some of this out and for bros who have sent me PMs, thank you so much for sharing

i hope more brothers share here as well. I find myself coming to this thead more often than the other FL threads . hahaha