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Originally Posted by dongdongchiang
Hey bro! I hope you are coping well man.
Just curious right now, how much do you love your wife, and how much would you want to help her?
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Hi Bro,
Thanks man
Coping better ( had some bros PM me with similar issues, so its like a little support group).
for my wife, yes i still love her and she is the mother of my children.
but in recent years ( pre covid and during covid), i went through a lot ( mentally) as my work suffered ( pre-covid i lost my job and was jobless for a while, was phv/ delivery while looking for a new job, didnt tell my wife, ), got my current job, travelled a bit , then kenna covid ( as you know , cannot travel = no money)
I was doing a shit load of illegal things ( telegram hitch , deliveries) just to make ends meet then
wife had troubles coping with wfh. i also had to help my old parents transition to the digital age suddenly ( u imagine la, dealing with old people). plus my kids were very young then.
i came out of covid pretty mentally messed up ( fat, stressed, all health problems) and no appreciation. But as a man/ husband/ father/ son, it is what it is and i got through it ( thank goodness for SBF)
Right now, after reading up about this perimenopause thingy, it will take a LOT of mental energy for her to admit these issues.
I am able to bring her through this, but i am not ( at this stage) , mentally strong to take anymore emotional abuse as i'm the dam pillar in the family ( children/ home/ parents). If my mind goes down, the whole family goes down as well
I've been changing my life style ( less fatty food, more exercise) to improve my health, and now improving my mental health, for my children.
for my wife, right now, all i can do is ensure she is comfortable at home physically ( no chores, no stress as a wife, ) and her main job now is her day job and her job as a mother ( children's studies), but i'm also part of my children's studies as well.
I'm not thinking so far ahead, so just enjoying myself now in SBF
haha