Finding underwear which is not yours at home
 

If you find underwear in your house which is not yours, what would you do?

Due to work, I'm usually not at home. I come back once or twice a month. One time I came back, and in my drawer, I found a man's underwear which is definitely not mine. I didn't say anything and just left it in the drawer.

The next trip I came back, the underwear was no longer there.

I know my wife can also be horny. She even told me one time that she's a bit of a sex addict. I bought her a vibrator to use during my absence, but maybe that was not enough.

For me, I didn't question or bring this up. I thought to myself that by voicing it out would not have any good results. Well, I have not also been faithful, so I guess it sort of "evens out"...

If this happened to you, what would your reaction be?

Re: Finding underwear which is not yours at home
 

talk it out to her..

another man in between u 2 isn't going to be good..

unhealthy relationship ..

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Bro, i think it brings down to your mentality. Some people might have the "As long as we play and dun get caught by each other, no problem" mentality.

While others might have "wanna play, play outside. As long as dun play at home and dun get caught, no problem" mentality.

Or "I can play but u cannot play cos I'm a guy and there's nothing wrong with a guy playing outside" mentality.

So ponder over which mentality is yours?

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Bro, it's a tricky situation here... sorry i cannot give you any good suggestion on what you should do, but I hope you find a best way to sort things out soon :)

Re: Finding underwear which is not yours at home
 

depends if it's a guy's or girl's underwear...:p

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Bro, it's a guy's underwear that he found

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well, u can try to put a ladies panty that does not belong to your wife in the same place where u found the other underwear,leave it there a while and then get rid of it and see what happens.

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If it was me...

I make sure on all my underwear/s...

I put my Name on it and also Remark "Stop using my Underwear!!! DONT'T PLAY PLAY!!! :mad::mad::mad:"

On his underwear... I put PCKS pic inside!!!

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Bro, I think it's obvious what's happening. Do something about it man.

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Install a hidden cam to gather evidence first. Confront her later so that she cannot deny. After that, it's up to u if u want forgive her.....

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It's obvious what happened, so I think there's nothing to say. As for our relationship, we're still very good. We talk and communicate, we have good sex - probably better than the average married couple.

She looks after the house, the kids - so no complaints from me.

I don't think she is doing it anymore and it was probably a short fling, which is why I prefer to let it be. After all, I'm also guilty of straying.

I guess this is one of the problems when sexually active couples are separated for long periods of time.

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Bro digdug,

I salute you ... :cool:

But i will leave it outside the drawer and say nothing, at least to give her a slience acknowledgement on her affair.

I guess we both can understand their need but to me definitely not in the house lah ... :D

:rolleyes: the man cannot even afford hotel 81 meh ........

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Close one eye if she's not doing anymore. Sometimes its not so much for yourself, but your kids. :)

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Good for you that you can keep your emotions under check.

I make no judgment about whether who is right or wrong. However, I do think your wife should not have brought her lover home. After all, you have kids and it is not in the children's best interest to find out that their mother was shagging another man at your own home.

If this affair has ended and you do not want to talk about it anymore, well and good. But if her affair continues, it would be a good idea to give her a wake-up call and tell her not to bring her lover home.

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Bros,

My honest suggest is not to confront her and tear down her face. She needs to be respect. The fault may lies with us....

So, have a casual chat that you approach the conversation in a friendly manner that you found something unusual and what was happening.... Compromise in the conversation and search her heart. You must be prepared to receive shock and learn to forgive her if both of you are still in love. Human tends to do things on impluse and make mistake. It can be forgiven.... Be humble is the key attitude towards resolving marital conflicts....

My 2-cents worth....